So, recently I had what I call an "Andrea Evans issue." Before I even went on a date with this guy, he began to display all the signs of being controlling to the point of stalking. Somewhere, in the back of my head, I could hear Cat's voice telling me to be cautious with this situation, to tread carefully. I had agreed to a date, however, and I am a man of my word.
I agreed to meet him in a VERY public place (Times' Square,) and made sure a friend had his name, number and photo of him in case anything went wrong (a good idea for any first date if you ask me!) A few hours before, he canceled, and asked for a rain check. For some reason beyond my comprehension, I said yes. But as the day of our rescheduled date came, I found him calling me over and over and over, texting me and becoming aggressive if I did not respond immediately. When, finally, under pressure to solidify a time for our reschedule, I decided it was not a good idea, he went completely apeshit. Calling me names, telling me how undesireable I was, saying he hoped I died, and that he would dance on my grave. I had SIXTY FOUR missed calls from him in a four hour period. My caution turned into outright fear, and I called the police.
I am grateful every day for the lessons learned from Cat and the tools she shares with us in her book. I am able to apply them much more readily today than ever before, and I am remembering to listen to my gut instincts.
It gets better every day.
Love and Light,
Cole
I agreed to meet him in a VERY public place (Times' Square,) and made sure a friend had his name, number and photo of him in case anything went wrong (a good idea for any first date if you ask me!) A few hours before, he canceled, and asked for a rain check. For some reason beyond my comprehension, I said yes. But as the day of our rescheduled date came, I found him calling me over and over and over, texting me and becoming aggressive if I did not respond immediately. When, finally, under pressure to solidify a time for our reschedule, I decided it was not a good idea, he went completely apeshit. Calling me names, telling me how undesireable I was, saying he hoped I died, and that he would dance on my grave. I had SIXTY FOUR missed calls from him in a four hour period. My caution turned into outright fear, and I called the police.
I am grateful every day for the lessons learned from Cat and the tools she shares with us in her book. I am able to apply them much more readily today than ever before, and I am remembering to listen to my gut instincts.
It gets better every day.
Love and Light,
Cole
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